Cynthia writes about dating and women’s issues (see her dating advice column here, or buy her book here). Her central question is: what sort of “Usefulness” do we want from our relationships? How can we get it? Categories of Usefulness include: Romantic, Sexual, Entertainment and Technical to name a few. For women in longer term relationships, the same concept can be used to examine what we’re are getting (or not) in return for the Usefulness we provide to our mates.
Cynthia’s book is called, Dating for Fun and Profit: A Girl’s Guide to Useful Men. Here you can find out more about the book, ask her questions and find her blog divided by category.
Postscript from cj: Wait! If you’re a guy who’s about to write me a nasty email don’t bother. Most of us women consider ourselves pretty darn useful to men already. So just go ahead and apply the idea to women too if necessary (isn’t it obvious that it goes both ways? Some of you are awfully touchy).